that people aren't always who they appear to be. Sure, everybody puts their best foot forward when they meet someone for the first time, or for a while until they get comfortable around someone, but when the newness wears off, who are you really left with? This is a lesson I've learned multiple times in my life, but it never seemed to stick. Until now. And now I realize just how much I had been holding on to the "newness" and not the reality. 'Cause, y'all? The reality isn't always pretty...and the reality is, it's not for me.
that it could always be worse. When things really suck in life, and you're unhappy with your job or your relationships with ex spouses or even other members in your family, just remember... You could be completely alone. There could be nobody in your corner, nobody there to help you out, and wouldn't you rather have somebody there than nobody at all? It's worth choosing your battles, and accepting that the apology you know you deserve will never come.
that you just have to laugh at yourself sometimes, and when I say "yourself" I also mean your children. I'm suffering from a killer headache tonight and my boys aren't listening worth a flip, which is why they were in bed 30 minutes earlier than normal tonight. I told them I didn't want to hear a sound...or else. Now, as I sit in the living room, purposely ignoring the giggles and thumps coming from their room, I have to laugh at myself. Why? Because they're boys. They didn't ask to have a mom who has a headache or who is going insane over this cleaning spree she threw herself into earlier today. Plus, said mom gave them ice cream for dessert after dinner. Again, sometimes you just have to laugh.
that you are enough. You don't need a significant other, the potential drama of a relationship, or the hassle of blending with another family when yours is chaotic enough on its own. You are fully capable of being your own best friend...because you know you're always going to be on the same page. You're fully capable of being both mom and dad, even if it's hard sometimes. Someday, (ideally) they'll appreciate it. You may miss the companionship of simply having someone there, but do you miss it enough to do something about it?
that you're ready to take a chance. Some people claim that there will never be another person for them if their spouse dies, cheats, divorces, etc. The hurt and the anger harden hearts and close people off from what could possibly be the greatest "find" of their lives. It could come in the form of an old friend you've known forever and never thought of "in that way" or a chance encounter with a complete stranger. If you never try, then you'll never know...but first you have to want to try. For some, online dating, blind dates, or even speed dating are the way to go. Call me old fashioned, but if I can't meet someone on my own, then they aren't the right someone for me.
that you always have God on your side, even when you don't realize it. He's always looking out for you, even when you're angry and resentful. He has a plan for each and every single one of us...we just have to let Him take control. His plans were made long before we even existed, and putting our trust solely in Him is a huge leap of faith. It's also the greatest reward we'll ever receive. This is something I struggle with remembering sometimes, and it takes a huge upheaval or a meltdown to remind me. It shouldn't be that way...
that sometimes you just have to roll with the punches. There are going to be days that suck, and there are going to be days that are beyond your wildest dreams. There are going to be days where everyone drives you insane, and days where you're elated to spend time with those closest to you. Days when your "to do" list seems to be infinite, and days where it seems like nothing to tackle any problem you may be facing. I've had a ton of days where everything just goes wrong, and I've had a ton of days where I know I have truly been blessed. Life is what you make it, and while everyone has a bad day every now and then, it all comes down to how you embrace it. You either roll with the punches or you get knocked out. Which do you choose?
Aubs
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